Remember the old Aretha Franklin song about a woman needing respect from the guy in her relationship? Actually, the real history of the song is a little different. Turns out it wasn’t written by Aretha; Otis Redding wrote and released it first, as the plea of a man for respect from a woman. (Check out the Wikipedia article on the song.)
Last week in Love Songs, my talk was on a man’s need for respect from a woman, and in each of the services I read a list that I compiled from a meeting with twelve NewSpring guys. The list was the responses from two questions I asked them. What makes you feel respected? What makes you feel disrespected? I went through the answers so fast that a number of you asked if I would give them again, so here they are.
What makes you feel respected?
2. Pleasant tone of voice
3. Comments of praise (especially made about him to others)
4. The feeling that he can be himself around her
5. When she goes out of her way to please him
6. Physical touch
7. The words, “I’m proud of you.”
What makes you feel disrespected?
1. The feeling of not being needed
2. Being down on her priority list
3. Being talked down to
4. Being criticized by someone and she doesn’t defend
5. Trying hard to please her but nothing seems to
This weekend we’re talking about The Climb, the challenge of making marriage work for a lifetime. I can’t wait to get started.